The new moon in Leo is taking place on August 18th, so it's important to set our intentions for the next few weeks. We will cover Leo's energy and how to set your new moon intentions. Leo is the most regal and creative sign of the Zodiac. You are being encouraged to tapped into your more playful, creative and affection side. We all have a little bit of Leo in us no matter what your Sun sign is. You are being asked to express yourself with exuberance, creativity, and humor. You'll most likely feel as if you have more energy, courage and inspiration during this new moon. Take ahold of it and let these traits flow through you, especially as you set your goals and intentions for the next month. Here are a few things to think about as we head into this performative energy. Don't Be Afraid To Show Off And Be Seen! The Leo energy is asking us to celebrate life. We all get to enjoy it. Leo's energy is generous, fun, magnanimous and even tends to fall on the spectrum of being a show off! That's ok we all need our time to shine and as we all off Leo somewhere in our chart this is being activated with the New Moon. The more we play, celebrate and appreciate our lives the more positive things we attract to our lives. Don't be shy and go for it! Adorn Your Love Ones With Affection It's time to get flirtatious! Leo is a big lover and fearlessly lets those around them know how they feel. It's time for each of us to use this energy for some fun + flirting. Plan a fun date night, go on an adventure or send some sweet love notes. Your loved ones will enjoy some extra attention. Be Creative Leo invites us to tap into our creative passions whether its art, prepping a meal in the kitchen, doing crafts, dreaming up travel plans or creating beautiful graphics for work, Whatever creative means to you, make sure you carve out some time to play. Don't be too serious, lighten up! Love Yourself Open up your heart, pay it forward, be giving and tap into Leo's loving energy. This sign gets a bad wrap for being too boasting BUT it is so important to love ourselves. Take some time to love on yourself. Take a page from this spotlight lion, make a list of all your characteristics + strengths that you love about yourself. Make space over the next few weeks to work on self love + your leadership skills. Spoil Yourself Take yourself on a date, splurge on something nice or buy yourself some flowers. Indulge a little and then spoil someone else you love. Leo is represented by the regal lion and calls us to remember how powerful we truly are. Walk a little a taller and make sure to show the world ALL you have to offer. You are meant to shine and Leo is giving you an extra boost! Set the mood
Light some candles, play some spiritual music and center yourself by taking in 3 deep breathes. Feel Gratitude Who + what makes you the happiest? Write down 5-10 people or things you appreciate in your life. When you are finished send them love. Decide On Your Top 10 Intentions Take some time to think about your top 10 goals + desires and what you can commit to doing in order to make these come true over the next four weeks. Write Down Or Doodle Your Intentions The more energy you put into and feel towards your intentions the better the results! Read Each One and Visualize Take some time to read and visualize each one as having come true. Really see and feel it. The real magic is in the feeling you have when these become true. Feel it in your body! Create an Affirmation For Each For each intention create an affirmation that backs up your desire. For example, if you want a new job, your affirmation could be "I love my new job!" Plan Some Action Items For Each Think through how you intend to make each intention a reality. Write down how you will achieve it. Meditate + Release to God/The Universe Take about 15 minutes to meditate on your intentions and release them to God/The Universe for support. God is always on your side helping to guide you to your next best move. Release Your Attachment to The Outcome End your meditation by releasing the outcome of each intention. Say with confidence "For the good of all or not at all!" Take Inspired Action Take steps towards your intentions but remember you released the outcome for the greater good. So don't spend time watching the pot boil! Go about your life and take inspired action, have confidence but know that if it is meant to be it will not pass you by! Components of Setting Your intention: Intention: I intend to have a new job Visualization: I see myself on my first day meeting with the HR manager to go over paperwork. Think through how you energetically feel? Affirmation: I am so excited to work for this amazing new company. Your commitment + action steps: I intend to reach out to all my friends in x industry, apply on job boards, reach out recruiters and update my portfolio. It's important to think your intentions in your mind, feel them in your body and revel them in your soul. Have fun setting your intentions during this playful + creative energy. Remember the sky is the limits as long as you believe it! If you are interested in an Astrology Reading or Coaching be sure to check out our services. Enjoy this PLAYFUL Leo energy! xoxo, The Rebel Soul Mama
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8/9/2020 0 Comments From Hopeless to HealedEver since I can remember, I have loved underdog stories. I'm always eager to learn how someone was able to take a dark situation and rise above it. How did they make their fear, doubt, shame, guilt, trauma and alchemize it into something beautiful and meaningful for their life?
Each week I'll be inviting a new woman to speak about her spiritual journey. She'll share her magic and medicine to get over your old stories and start living a life of freedom. This week I'll be sharing my story which only my close friends and family know the details. So here we go… When I was in 5th or 6th grade, I had my first intervention with my alcoholic parent. My 12-year-old self had worked up enough courage to approach them and let them know that I did not think it was ok how much they were drinking. That I loved them and had so much fun with them, but when they drank they were unpredictable, angry and I wasn't happy with our current living situation. Next, my parent met me with tears of anger and the words "You don't know what you are talking about", "You are an ungrateful little girl", "Get back inside and mind your business." I was heartbroken, I didn't know what else to do so I started to form a wall around my truth and inner knowing. In my young mind, my parent was right, and I was wrong. If any of you have an alcoholic parent or relative, you know that being around that person is like walking on eggshells. You never know what you are going to get. At the time, people in my life didn't know I was living with an alcoholic parent in the home, because, at a young age, I developed what's called The Family Hero. I became a super-achiever and a people pleaser. I was a workaholic and always stayed very busy, even from a young age. I made sure I had a lot of activities so that I wouldn't be home very often. I became very good at identifying other people's needs but never understood my own. I used my success and achievements to find a sense of belonging. I also wanted to prove that everything was "fine" at home. But I never thoroughly enjoyed any of my achievements. I was always off to the next thing. Always in motion Fast forward to my first few jobs post-college I started to have visceral reactions anytime I received feedback from my Managers. Many people called me sensitive my whole life, so I just chalked it up to me being sensitive, not a parent wound that needed to heal. I managed to keep up the workaholic coping mechanism until I got to my first Start-Up job, I was an Office Manager and let's just say this role was the biggest f-ing trigger for all my childhood wounds. I started to have severe anxiety; I didn't really know what was causing it. After my 3rd mental break down and cry fest at work, I began to see a therapist. Something inside me said to research a therapist who specialized in adult children of alcoholics. At my first session, I literally had never felt so seen and heard in my whole life. For once someone understood why I was the way that I was. He gave me tools and guidance to get me started. He gave me what is called the laundry list, which is basically a list of characteristics of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic and some book recommendations. I balled my eyes out as I read over the aspects. I'll go over a few examples: 1) You became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures. For me, this really manifested in all my relationships with my bosses. I'd cry at any hint of feedback or criticism. I also really hated being told what to do. 2) You became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process. Especially in my office manager role and planning wedding, I became so wrapped up in getting the approval of the team or my brides that I literally had no boundaries; I'd be nervous to say no or speak up. I wanted everyone to like me. I was a huge pushover. 3) You live life from the viewpoint of victims. For me this showed up in complaining a lot, thinking my situation was everyone else's fault but my own, thinking I was stuck that had to continue living this way. So after reading this list, I then had to go back to work. On my way back, I remember feeling like wow that was really tough and ugly, but I had released a lot of things that I'd bottled up inside. I started to think wow things can really change. What I didn't realize was that I wasn't yet aware of my thoughts and feelings. As an overachiever, my mind was always on doing and moving. That was my numbing mechanism, and so even while going to therapy, I wasn't slowing down enough to process. So for the first three years of therapy, I still wasn't fully releasing my pain and trauma. Instead, I was reliving it, making a lot of the memories stronger, which was then causing my self-esteem to lower and my anxiety to rise. I now understand that with therapy, you should also start a mindful practice. So you can release the pain from your body. Embodiment mediations have also really helped with inner child wounds. One day I found myself on the couch and could not get up. I was so depressed and unsatisfied with my career. I was having a pity party, to say the least. When I saw Rachel Hollis documentary and the first exercise was to write a letter from your perseverance. Something inside me literally screamed get up and do this. So I did, and over that next year and a half, I went on a self-development and soul journey. I read and listened to everything I could get my hands on; I started meditating every day during my commute; I filled my life with a lot of positivity. Slowly over time, I began to feel better, to know myself better. But the real healing came during Tony Robbins Unleash the Power Within conference, as he asked a woman her story. "She said I want to be close to my parents, but there's this wall up", and Tony said something along the lines of there's no wall except for the one you created. He said "Sure your parents weren't perfect, they are human, but you have to forgive, love them and move on. You are the only one still holding onto this." That shook me to my core. All along it was me playing the victim and blaming my problems on my parents. I now understand that what happened to me wasn't my fault, BUT my healing is my responsibility. No one was going to save me; I had to become the hero of my own story. Right after Tony Robbins, I decided to love my parents unconditionally. I now understand that they did the best they could with what they had. They were also most likely reliving their own family pain & trauma cycles. Once I understood this, I knew I had to be the one to break it. I had to heal, not just for myself but for my son and my family. And my son's future family. The minute I made this decision to heal my whole life shifted. I now have a fantastic relationship with my parents, who have been 13 years sober, and I am so proud of them. I love the feeling of getting a second chance at having the relationship that I always wanted to have with them. They are amazing grandparents to my son Carter. Additionally, I started to really enjoy my 2-hour commute, which was something I complained about for a long time. Every day I became eager to meditate and do spiritual work on the ride. I'd get off BART and look around the city and smile to myself. "I'm alive, and I get a chance to do something great today, thank you God for another day". Shifting from my pity party mindset to a mindset of self love, compassion, forgiveness, and gratitude started to change my reality. I began to get very clear about my vision for my life. I knew I wanted to help others out of the dark and into the light. How could I help women alchemize their pain, trauma into something magical and beautiful to share with the world. I want to help you break your trauma cycle so that you don't continue the cycle of pain with your own families. I stopped taking on weddings as my side hustle and decided I was going to plan a spiritual retreat; I asked a few friends who are coaches if they'd like to do this with me. I also told my full-time job that I wanted to work on Diversity and Inclusion. I was feeling on fire. My energy was rising from a low vibration of anxiety and scarcity to higher vibration of gratitude and excitement. I love knowing that all along, I was supposed to connect the dots in my life to serve other people. Everything happens for you, to mold you and shape you for your destiny. Then COVID hit, in-person activities were no longer a part of our reality. My full-time job let me go as they no longer had in-person events to plan; I postponed the retreat. The way I see it is, you have two choices: be the victim or be the hero and figure it out. This time there was absolutely no way that I was playing the victim again. I chose to see this as happening for me. It gave me time and a safety net of severance + unemployment to truly figure out what I want to do, who do I want to become? The first few months of COVID I took myself on a spiritual retreat almost five days a week. I worked out, did yoga, meditated, journaled, did a lot of inner child healing + reparenting, I learned to love myself to appreciate my shadow self and embrace her. I got myself a spiritual coach who has absolutely helped upgrade me on so many levels on this journey. Then my best friend past away and grief hit me like a ton of bricks. This time I was able to feel my feelings not push them away or numb them. I let them come up, and I'd cry when I needed to. I started to ask for a sign from her, a sunflower. I began to see them everywhere and wake up even more to who I truly am. One of my last conversations with her was that she wished she could shake people and wake them up. Everyone worries about stuff that just doesn't really matter. She wanted to help others appreciate and love life to the fullest. BECAUSE that's what SHE did even on her hardest most painful days, she was grateful to have another day. I want to invite you to start thinking about how you'd live each day if you knew it were your last. STOP saying that you'll get to your dreams tomorrow, or you'll be happy when xyz happens, no sweets START being happy today, start loving your life! It's the only one you have and tomorrow is not guaranteed. So, my friends, I'm choosing to share my story, not for sympathy but to show you an example that even if you think you are in a dark place right now, I promise you that you can turn it around and let light in. You can get medicine from the lesson. Once you start appreciating what you have at this moment, making positive changes, loving yourself unconditionally, forgiving yourself and others from the past and living life with a grateful heart you will become a vibrational match for ALL of your desires. You deserve to be happy; the world needs you to share your amazing gifts. For me, I'm more scared of not trying than trying. I don't want to be on my death bed and think what if I wouldn't have been scared to share my story and help others. So I will be charging ahead to the unknown. I know I am fully supported, loved, and I am enough. I'm now on a mission to help women like you find their light and power within. If that sounds like a journey, you'd like to go on, and you want some help and guidance. I'm opening up 5 - 1:1 coaching spots. You'll have a 90-minute coaching session each week for four months. We will deep dive into inner child healing, self-love, bringing balance to your life and create a roadmap to your dreams and desires. You'll also have access to me Monday through Friday 9:00 am to 5:00 pm through Group Me. You can apply here for my coaching services. We will then hop on a call to see if we are a fit for each other. I'm available for women who say "YES I'm a 10/10, I'm ready to change my life and start stepping into possibilities." You are worthy to have the life of your dreams and invest in yourself babe! I haven't regretted ever investing in myself and I will continue to bet on myself every single day because I know I'm worth it. xoxox, The Rebel Soul Mama Jaclyn's eat, pray & love solo trip around the world led her to love herself, find her purpose and meet her soul partner.I met Jaclyn's freshmen year of college at California State University, Chico. Funnily enough, we met in an Anthropology class titled Magic, Witchcraft and Religion. We've come full circle, and now we love to geek out over all things spiritual. I was so excited to have Jaclyn as my first guest on Rebel Soul Stories. You can tune in every Sunday at 5:00 pm PST on Instagram @therebelsoulmama all replays are under IGTV Rebel Soul Stories Series. This San Clemente, CA girl, is a Self Love Coach on a mission to help people love themselves unconditionally so that they can thrive in every area of life. She believes that everything flows from the extent to which we love ourselves, so when we feel safe to be who we are and when we know our intrinsic worth, our whole world starts to shift. This is the energy that calls in soulmate relationships, gives you the confidence to pursue your dreams, attracts money, and allows you to live your happiest, most fulfilled life. I've asked Jaclyn a series of questions below. You can also check out our Instagram Live session on my Instagram @therebelsoulmama. How did you discover your purpose and mission?I started to follow the breadcrumbs of what lit my soul on fire and followed my intuition. For a long time, I was battling the idea that I had to work a typical 9-5, and I got confused by everyone else's idea of success. I ended up moving to Guatemala to remove myself from that idea and just listened to what my heart was trying to tell me instead of what society was telling me. I knew I wanted to help people, I was obsessed with personal development, and my heart was telling me that my pain and struggle with self-love would be medicine to other people and coaching checked all of those boxes for me. I also learned that pain leaves a lot of clues as to where your purpose can be found. How did you feel in your body and in your life before you found your purpose? Who were you hanging out with, what things where you doing? I felt very uncomfortable in my body and my life before I found purpose. I was very focused on the outside and not on who I was on the inside. I was in a constant battle with my weight; I drank a lot of alcohol to numb the fact that I was unfulfilled, I didn't feel like I had anyone in my life who truly understood who I was so I omitted pieces of my truest self. I was basically living my life for everyone else but me. How was your confidence and self love when you decided to go for your dreams? And what steps did you take to evolve your self?My confidence and self-love were at an all-time high. I had just finished a six-month program that taught me how to love myself and also gave me the tools to help my clients do the same. I invested in myself and my dreams by hiring a coach, and I created rituals that made me feel good about myself; I consumed all things self love, mindset, spirituality, and personal development. I said no to everything that felt out of alignment with who I wanted to become. What main events happened to lead you on your spiritual journey?I had some small moments in my life that put me on my spiritual path, but it was the moment below that really had me seeking a spiritual connection. I was feeling so shitty that I was willing to try anything that would make me feel better. I meditated every day, journaled, went to therapy every week, inner child work, listened to personal development podcasts and audiobooks, etc. It was a process of hitting rock bottom, which slowly led me to come home to myself. What's been some of your most soul crushing moments and how did you turn these into gems of wisdom?After I returned home from travelling the world for eight months, I jumped right back into everyday life without even thinking about it. I thought if I just found a job in the wellness space (my passion at the time), then everything in life would fall into place. I started working for a company that, on paper sounded like my dream job. I bought a car and moved into my own place all within a month of being home. I was so excited at how quickly I made it all happened, but after week 2 of my new job, I had a feeling in my gut that it wasn't right. I called my mom sobbing and told her I felt like I made the wrong decision, but I had this conditioning that told me I had to stick it out for a year. It ended up being the lowest year of my entire life. I was depressed, had regular panic attacks, and started having health issues. It was my soul trying to guide me back home to myself. Back to my true purpose. An awakening of my spirit. It led me to move to Guatemala for a year and a half to live life on my own terms and let my intuition guide the way. At the time, I looked at it as the worst year of my life, but now I see it as the most profound awakening which put me on my path. If you could give the younger version of you any advice what would it be and why?Everything you want in life is on the other side of loving yourself. Once you remember your worth, the things you've been searching for will effortlessly fall into place. What are you eager to work on next?I'm excited to build out the 2.0 version of Self Love Mastery What are some of your BIG aspirational dreams?I would love to become an international speaker, host heart healing retreats, create a self love membership site, and become a New York Times best selling author! What are some steps you are taking today to become that next evolved version of you?I've been doing a lot of inner child to heal the parts of myself that have been keeping me small, working with spiritual coaches, and embodying the next level version of myself in my day to day Tune in next week for another Rebel Soul Story. Have a great week loves!
xoxo, The Rebel Soul Mama 3/31/2020 0 Comments Little by LittleA year ago, I found myself on the couch paralyzed. I felt lost, hopeless and frustrated with where my career was heading. I had no clue what my true purpose and passion was. I had no confidence in myself or my abilities. At the time, I was commuting four hours a day to San Francisco for my full-time tech job and planning weddings as a side hustle. Every moment of my day was consumed by doing things for others whether it was for my co-workers, clients or my family. I had stopped taking care of myself and wasn't connecting to how I felt. That day all my emotions hit me like a ton of bricks, and I found myself paralyzed on the couch. I had stopped listening to myself and completely forgotten how to connect to my inner voice and intuition. I was keeping myself so busy that I never took the time to stop and check-in with myself. I was also seeking outside validation instead of my own. As I laid there on my couch and searched my streaming options on the TV to numb my thoughts, I stumbled upon a Rachel Hollis' documentary about her Rise conference. I did not want to hear a pep talk about how I needed to change my life, but something inside me pushed me to click and watch. For the first exercise, she had the crowd write a letter from their perseverance. As I mentioned, I did not want to get off the couch for any circumstance, but there I was again with an inner voice summoning me to grab a notebook and a pen. I did the exercise and wrote down all the things I've done in my life that I was proud of, all the things in my life that I thought were so hard, but I persevered. As I read this letter back to myself, tears streaming down my face, I realized how out of tune I was with myself. I had been talking to myself so severely and stacking negative points one on top another until I believed every word I told myself. My outside life was a reflection of my inner world. I knew then and there that if I wanted my circumstances to change, I had to change my inner turmoil to inner triumph. Little by little, I started to make small and significant changes in my life. The two changes that had the most impact on my life were:
Journaling | I hadn't written in a journal since high school, and I had forgotten how much I enjoyed it. This practice also forced me to slow down for a daily check-in with myself and set my intention for the day. Meditation | Encouraged me to be aware, kind and compassionate with myself. The practice of meditation taught me that my inner words have a crucial impact on my outer reality. Over time, my journaling and meditation practices have evolved. Little by little, I became more comfortable with these activities so that now they are a non-negotiable for me. I need to do them every single day to feel my best. I make sure I start my day this way so that I can set my intentions. Today I look back at the person I was a year ago, and I'm so proud of myself for taking that first step and becoming aware of what needed to change. I'm delighted with who I am today and continue to strive to be the best version of myself day after day. I sit here finding myself unemployed in these crazy times, the old version of me would have found every negative story and stacked it one on top of another, dragging me down further. The new version of me sees this as happening FOR me not to me. This unique circumstance is forcing me to get resourceful and creative. I'm choosing to be excited by my possibilities rather than fearful of everything that can go wrong. If you find yourself in a similar negative self-talk pattern I encourage you to slow down, connect with yourself, be kind to yourself and little by little you will find yourself in a brand new state of mind. You will start living a life that you want, not complaining about the life that's happening to you. You are the writer, actor, director of your own life. What do you want that story to look like? For me, I want to look back and see that I overcame obstacles, fears and created the most beautiful life possible for my family and me. With love, Rebel Soul You've saved a few bridal dresses to a Pinterest board. Your friends and family bought you a few wedding magazines which you have dogged eared pages of potential wedding day looks. Now you feel like you have a general idea of your dream dress. We can't tell you how many of our clients have said "I thought I wanted lace but when I tried on that style it wasn't me" or "I wanted a big poofy princess dress, but when I had it on in the shop I thought I wouldn't be able to sit down". Our biggest advice is to try on many different styles even if you don't think its what you want, and you might surprise yourself! We've rounded up our top 5 tips for finding the prefect wedding dress. When to BuyThe dress should be one of your first purchases when planning a wedding. We recommend starting your search 12 to 9 months before your big day. These gowns are typically custom made and made to order. Once your gown arrives, it might need alterations. Usually, you'll have two to four fittings depending on what alternations you need or want. BudgetMake sure you have a budget in mind. Call around to different bridal boutiques and make sure they carry dresses in your price range. Falling in love with a $10,000 dress when your budget is $1,500 is not a good way to start your big day gown search. Your Body TypeWhen looking for a dress search for styles that will flatter and accentuate your best features. You should also try on different cuts to see what you are most comfortable with, and you might surprise yourself and choose something completely different than you initially thought you would. Dress for the SeasonAre you having a summer wedding outdoors in 80 degree heat? Then you might want a light and breathable gown with short sleeves. Having a winter wedding in Tahoe? A heavier fabric dress with sleeves might be more suitable. Weigh out your options and comfort level when choosing your dress. Who to BringWho do you want by your side when trying on wedding dresses? Everyone is different, some brides bring both their parents while others have their bridesmaids. The choice is 1000% yours. We do recommend bringing people who will make the experience fun, memorable and give you advice in a nice way! A Few of Our Favorite Bridal Gown ShopsBride to Be Couture - Carmichael, CA The Bridal Vault - Jamestown, CA Grace Loves Lace - Los Angeles, CA Lovely Bride - San Francisco, CA Wilde Bride - San Francisco, CA Remember at the end of the day picking your dress is about how YOU feel and what YOU like. You'll want to feel your best and be comfortable on your wedding day. Like Marie Kondo would say "Does this dress spark joy?"
Let us know if you have additional tips or share your favorite bridal dress shop. Until next time lovelies! xoxo, Tin & Twine 1/28/2019 0 Comments Why Hire a Wedding Planner?You are engaged, let the planning begin! In our experience, most people have a great support system when it comes to planning their wedding. Friends and family give you advice, send you recommendations and even offer to help. Others might have no clue where to start! We are here to say that's ok, whether you fall in either group or somewhere in between, most wedding planners have packages geared toward the level of help and support you might need. We broke it down by various couple categories and matched with a typical planning package you'll need according to your level of involvement in the process. The DIY CoupleYou are designing, planning and creating a lot of elements yourself. You've already booked most of your vendors, but now you are wondering who is going to direct everyone and make sure my vision comes to life? Recommendation - Day of /Month of Wedding Coordinator Why? Because who else is going to take a final expert look at all your rental orders, vendors, and set up your perfect big day? Day of Coordinators typically run your rehearsal, help with timeline creation and set/break down of all the decor. Let yourself, your friends and family enjoy the day by not worrying about wedding day logistics! Hire someone who has the experience to bring it all together. Not only will you enjoy your day ten times more but if any issues arise an experienced planner is prepared to handle without you or your guests evening noticing! The Almost There CoupleYou've got the venue, some of your vendors and a general idea of how you want your big day to unfold. BUT, you need someone to help tie it all together. Take your vision and run with it, give you recommendations, negotiate and book your remaining vendors. Recommendation - Partial planner or three-month planning service All planners have different ways they work the partial or three-month service plan. We found bookending the three-month time frame by six-week increments worked best for our clients. At initial booking we work the first six weeks to secure your remaining vendors, answer any of your questions, concerns and help map out your big day. Then we come back in the six weeks before to finalize all your details. Clueless CoupleYou have NO idea where to start or have NO interest/time in planning a wedding. You need someone to walk you through the process from start to finish. You want someone to create a design and overall look and feel for your big day. Recommendation - Full planning consultation The planner is with you from day one. They help you find a venue, or if you have already chosen one, they will help with everything else. For example, they'll guide you on overall design, vendor selection, logistics, timeline and everything in between. They are there every step of the way. One of the first things we do here at Tin and Twine is to schedule a call or in-person meeting. We ask you A LOT of questions from do you have a date and venue to what is the look and feel you want for your big day. Getting a sense for your style and wedding day needs helps us make a recommendation on what wedding package works best for you. Making sure you feel supported and guided through the process is our number one goal. It's a big year with lots of moving parts which can be overwhelming to most. Wedding planners can ease that stress and make your wedding experience more enjoyable.
Let us know if you have any questions or additional tips! Until next time lovelies. xoxo, Tin & Twine Choosing your venue can be a daunting task, it’s typically one of the higher priced items you'll book for your big day and also sets the tone for the rest of your wedding planning. Once you choose a venue, you now have a wedding date, yippee! You can start your vendor research and lock down the rest of the details. We put together our top 5 things to think about when choosing your wedding venue. BudgetFirst and foremost set a budget and know what the max amount you can spend on your wedding. It’s important to know your max number, so you will be able to carve out certain portions of the budget to various vendors. Keep in mind each venue is different. You might choose a place that includes rentals and catering, or they may require you to secure all your vendors. LocationWe find that many of our couples have a hard time deciding where to narrow their venue search. Some want their wedding to be a destination for all their guests, while others wish to have theirs locally. Don’t be afraid to have multiple locations in mind, and we recommend going on a few venue tours to see what area you like best. For example, we recently had a bride and groom looking for venues near both their hometowns for the convenience of their parents as well as checking out places locally near them. Ultimately they found a perfect fit locally which has made it easy for consultations, walkthroughs etc. RestrictionsAre you dreaming of having a sparkler send off or to throw confetti in the air? Check with your venue about their limitations. Some event spaces don't allow outside vendors, open flame, sparklers, loud music passed 10:00 pm, hard alcohol etc. If you want an open bar but the venue only allows beer & wine that might be hard no for you and your sweetie. Ask the venue manager for a list of their restrictions or a copy of their contract; this will help you decide which venue is right for you. Your GuestsWe know your big day should be all about you and don’t worry it really will be! But, thinking about your guest count and the types of guests you are going to invite can make a significant impact on what venue you hold your big day. Think logistics through like is there handicap or wheelchair access for your older guests. Will people have to do a lot of walking or walking on uneven ground? Being aware of your guest experience is an essential aspect of choosing your venue. How do you want your guests to feel or remember your wedding? Surrounding AreaWhen visiting the venue look at the surrounding area. Are there hotels located within a short distance? Are there activities for your guest to do? Do you feel comfortable having your closest friends and family stay in the surrounding area? Are there restaurants and shops nearby for quick pickups?
Our biggest advice is to sit down with your significant other and possibly your parents (who might be helping pay for the big day), put together a list of must-have items for a venue. What’s most important and then you’ll be able to make a better decision on your site. Let us know if you have any questions or found anything helpful when doing your venue search! Until next time lovelies! XOXO, Tin & Twine You've asked the main people in your life to stand by your side, now what do they wear!? Recently, a lot of our brides have been asking where to find the best bridal party attire and how to choose!? So, we've rounded up our current favorite dresses and where to find them. We also have three easy steps to help point you in the right direction in choosing what your bridal wears on your big day. Think through the following three questions and then start your search. Style of your weddingHave you decided on an overall theme or style for your wedding? Are you going for a glam, boho, traditional, rustic, modern or vintage look and feel? Once you choose the general direction for your design, it will be easier to pick the look of what dresses your bridesmaids wear. What time of year are you holding your wedding? Is it indoor or outdoor? For example, if you have an outdoor fall wedding and you know it will be on the chillier side choose a long sleeve or maxi dress. Is it in the dead of the summer heat? Choose a lightweight, knee length and sleeveless dress. Color PaletteOnce you've decided on your wedding style, you'll need to pick a wedding color palette. This can be as easy as picking your favorite colors or choosing a palette that matches the time of year you are getting hitched. If your wedding is in the spring, you could choose a light pastel palette of blush, cream and green. Having a fall wedding? Yellows, browns and burgundy pair well with the turning leaves at your venue. We recommend starting a Pinterest board of all the wedding ideas you love. After a week or two of perusing ideas and saving your favorites do you see a trend or pattern? Are there a lot of the same colors and styles? Body TypeThink about your girl squads body type. We are betting they each come in there own beautiful, unique shape and size. Try to pick a dress that would be flattering and comfortable for your gal pals. One easy way to make sure your besties feel their best is to let them pick out their own dress as long as it's in line with your style and color palette. We've had brides tell their girls to pick a grey maxi dress, and each girl gets to choose a dress that flatters her body. Letting them choose their own dress also allows them to watch that price tag. Let's face it our bank accounts tend to take a bit of a hit when we are a bridesmaid, but we do it because we love our bride and couldn't imagine not being by her side! Our PicksWe have all the feels when it comes to these dresses, and we know they'd be beautiful on just about any wedding party. Dusty Blue - BHLDN Logan Velvet - BHLDN Ginger Convertible Dress - BHLDN Mariah Wrap Dress - Show Me Your MuMu Godshaw Goddess Gown - Show Me Your MuMu Navy Blue Maxi - LuLu's Heavenly Hues Maxi - LuLu's TFNC Pleated Midi - ASOS Midi Dress with Lace Sleeves - ASOS We'd love to hear from you! What are your plans to dress your bridal party?
Until next time loves! xoxo, Tin & Twine 1/4/2018 0 Comments New Year New Feature!
Today we were featured on one of our favorite websites. To see all the details head on over to The Wandering Photographer.
We are so excited for all our events and shoots in 2018. We couldn't have asked for a better way to kick off the year. Collaborating with other creatives is one of our all time favorite things and we hope that this new year brings even more talented vendors and friends into our lives. Cheers to making this year count, setting even bigger goals and taking chances! Photography by Vanessa Lynne Photography Planning & Styling | Shannon McAlister of Tin & Twine Events Florals | Sweet Lilacs Studio (red bouquet) + Bloom That (green bouquet) Bridal Boutique | The Bridal Vault Gown Designer | Lillian West Rentals | Shannon McAlister of Ritual Rentals Tie | "Blueberry Bliss" by Dazi Cake & Confections | 81 Bakery Looking forward to sharing even more with all you this year! Xoxo, Tin & Twine 11/22/2017 0 Comments GratitudeWith Thanksgiving just a day away we wanted to take a moment and share a few things that we are thankful for in 2017. This year in particular Tin and Twine has been given more opportunities to partner with amazing vendors who have become dear friends. We've received more customer referrals than any other avenue, and this is in large part from our vendors and close friends/family. These go such a long way, and we could not be more grateful for everyone's faith in our dream and abilities. Our families are our biggest fans and promoters. They push us on a rough day to pick up and keep going. When we accomplish something great, they support us and celebrate with us. Without all our friends, family, vendors and supporters we would not be able to continue striving for our dream. Today, we are extra thankful for our very first opportunity of getting published for a styled shoot. Head over to I Do Y'all to view our Barefoot Boho Vow shoot. Photographer | Vanessa Lynne Photography
Venue | The Willow Ballroom Location | Hood, California Planning | Tin and Twine Events Rentals | Tin Roof Farmhouse Vintage Rentals Florals | Yay for Cake What are you grateful for this year? Comment below, we'd love to hear from you! Enjoy your time with friends and family this holiday. Cherish the small moments, they go by fast. XOXO, Tin & Twine |
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