4 Ways to Calm Your Inner Critic

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How often do you let your inner critic stop you from going after what you truly desire? Or do you allow your inner critic to run rapid and beat you up?


At the start of motherhood, I wasn't aware of how negative I spoke to myself. I was my own biggest critic. It pains me now, to think how long I allowed this berating internal dialogue to play out. 


Now, I call my inner critic Sharon; it's the name people accidentally address me in emails or the barista at Starbucks will call out my drink order. Being called Sharon use to rev me up, but now I laugh because it's not that big of a deal. Giving my inner critic a name helps me to see this negativity as silly and not to take her so damn seriously! 


I've rounded up four ways to calm your inner critic:


1) Acknowledge that your inner critic is in the room.

• When you start catching your negative thoughts, beliefs and inner critic in action, you can stop your self-sabotage in its track. 
• You can stop harmful patterns, and you can respond to your circumstances rather than react.

2) Get curious about your fear and current needs.

• Criticism of yourself stems from a wound or fear. 
• Get curious; what fear or wound is coming up? Is it a real danger or a perceived threat?
• Ask questions rather than spiraling down and with the story of criticism and fear.

3) Love on yourself

• Tune into yourself with grace and compassion. Can you find reasons to prove the fear wrong? 
• Ask yourself what you need to feel safe. 
• Listen to your body and love on yourself with positive affirmations and activities that fill up your cup. 

4) Visualize the best-case scenario

• You might find yourself visualizing all the ways the situation could go wrong, or you could get hurt. 
• You get what you expect. 
• Instead, envision the best case scenario and really FEEL into how you'd experience life if everything went in your favor.

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Our inner critic can be a useful tool to observe wounds or fears. When you bring awareness to the critical internal dialogue, you can choose how you respond to the situation.


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xoxo, 
The Rebel Soul Mama