Open/Undefined Head 
Mental Pressure, Inspiration, Questions, Doubts and Confusion.

When you are feeling overwhelmed, anxious, pressure to make a decision or to have an answer - This can be a sign your NOT SELF theme is taking the wheel.

You are designed to channel Inspiration from the ethers and follow what tingles your heart.

Questions: Am I taking on Anxiety that Isn't mine? Am I trying to answer other people's questions?

Open/Undefined Ajna

Mental Consciousness, Conceptualizing, Interpreting, Answers as Opinions, Concepts and Theories.

When you feel the need to "figure out" life or know for certain that's your NOT SELF chiming in. You may take on other people's ideas, values, and beliefs as your own.

You’re meant to see many perspectives and switch logic styles to show us possibilities that no one else can see yet.

Questions: Am I trying to convince everyone I am certain? Am I holding onto outdated Ideas and beliefs?

Open/Undefined Throat 

Communication, Manifestation, Metamorphosis and Transformation through Interaction with the World.
Overcoming your fear of not being noticed or heard will happen when your NOT SELF learns to let go of not "knowing" what to say. Trust that the divine will always give you the right words at the right time.

Resist the pressure to just say what you think others want to hear. Be clear on your Intentions and share when Inspired.

Questions: Am I trying to attract attention? Am I speaking with Integrity or trying to please others?

Open/Undefined Identity 
Love, Identity and Direction, Seat of the Magnetic Monopole, Higher Self

You may find yourself constantly trying to find direction and love - your NOT SELF tries to prove that you are lovable. Feeling directionless, you may let others navigate your life and assume they know better

Liberate yourself and try on many different identities and know that whichever you choose that day is the perfect expression of you.
Questions: Am I looking for love and direction? Am I allowing a title or relationship define me?

Open/Undefined Heart 

Willpower, Ego and The Material Word
Notice when you feel the need to compete, prove yourself
or follow your ego's desire - your NOT SELF feels unworthy. Know that the truest value has nothing to do with what you achieve. You are here to reflect the bigger picture to the rest of the world.
Be loyal to your soul. Build a relationship with yourself of utter acceptance and unconditional love - others' will follow your lead.

Questions: Do I think I have something to prove? Do I think by proving myself I'll receive acceptance and love?

Open/Undefined Solar Plexus 

Spirit Consciousness, Emotional and Social Awareness, Passion and Desire, Abundance of Spirit, Feelings, Moods and Sensitivity.
If you feel out of control emotionally, notice who you are around and what mood they are In. You are here to witness the full range of emotional experiences, but not to take others' emotions on as your own -NOT SELF. Hard conversations are the way to release emotions - don't hold on to these they may manifest In your body In physical symptoms.

Allow yourself solo time each day to return to your own intrinsic calmness and neutrality.

Questions: Am I avoiding confrontation and truth? Am I afraid of someone else's emotional reaction?

Open/Undefined Sacral

Power of Fertility, Vital Energy, Responsibility, Availability, Sexuality

Hustling to keep pace is your NOT SELF theme - learn when enough is enough. You begin to enjoy the buzz of life force energy without getting over-taken by It. You attune to Inner resources and know what Is worth exerting your energy for and what Is not.

Tapping In and amplifying the sacral energy around you can help you "get things done" and then make sure you take time to withdraw and recharge.

Questions: Do I know when enough Is enough? Am I afraid of what happens If I stop "doing"?

Open/Undefined Spleen 

Body Consciousness, Full Existential Living, Spontaneity, Health and Well-Being, Values, Immune System
Staying In unhealthy patterns that make you "feel safe" but terrible and drained is your NOT SELF theme. You will begin to know what is healthy vs. what is not for you. You become highly attuned to your body's needs without letting your mind override your sensations.

You become unafraid of fear itself. Learn to create boundaries around other people's fears. Facing fears, one by one, helps you become more fearless throughout your life.

Questions: Am I holding on to what isn't good for me? Am I repeating unhealthy patterns?

Open/Undefined Spleen 

Body Consciousness, Full Existential Living, Spontaneity, Health and Well-Being, Values, Immune System

The pressure you feel to "do" and "get things done" Is your NOT SELF, - you are subject to absorbing and amplifying the stress and pressure of those around you.
You think the faster you finish the quicker the pressure will lift but this Is a false belief. Sit with the pressure and use the adrenaline to make creative diamonds.
Questions: Am I In a hurry to get things done so I can be free of pressure? Do I feel like I can only rest when everything Is done?

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Many of us walk around saying and doing things that we aren't even aware of. But what does it mean when we notice something in others? We all have the friend that won't stop talking about themself and doesn't ask you any question about your life. Or we get frustrated with the parent that nags us at the other end of the phone? Maybe your partner isn't fully present when you explain your story? What you start to spot in other people tends to reflect an unhealed, unsimulated or unbalanced part of yourselves. So within in so without. As above, so below. Whatever you are experiencing in your external reality is going on inside of you. You can try as you might to fix things on the physical plane, but until you bring harmony within, you will never have the satisfaction you genuinely crave. You might blame your job, your mom or your friends for not giving you what you need or doing the things you expect them to do, but this won't help. You will get trapped in your trigger, repeating the victim blame pattern until you heal that part of you within. 

Here's a practical example from one of my clients who started a business. As she shared her message with her social media community, friends and family, many people met her with confusion, resistance and misunderstood what she was trying to offer. I asked her, how does that make you feel? She replied exasperated, "Like no one truly understands me!" 

I then asked.. 

"Do you feel like you truly understand yourself? Do you know who you are and what your message is?"

She paused, then a bit perplexed, she answered, " I guess I don't..." Next, I asked if she felt like spending some time understanding herself would help with her relationships? She agreed it would, so I walked her through the following visualization exercises. Try the activities for yourself below, or you can listen to the guided meditation here. 

For this activity, you will need about 20 minutes of quiet time, a journal and a pen. 

Let's see who is underneath all the shame, blame, guilt and victim mentality. 

Play 
Envision a younger version of you. Maybe in your childhood bedroom, treehouse/fort or in your favorite place as a kid. Greet your inner child with a hug and loving embrace. Let her know she's safe with you, that you will take care of her, and want to get to know her better. When you feel comfortable, ask her what her favorite things to do, see, learn and create are? What lights her up. Listen to her, feel her, see what she wants to show you. 

Spark
Now visualize you are in a dark room, that it's just you and a large projector screen. You are watching a highlight reel of everything that has ever sparked something in you. Maybe it's a book, helping others, dancing, creating, music. Think of something that is the opposite of a trigger; think about people, places and things that have made you feel at home, safe, expansive and expressive that you lose yourself in the flow of. 

Values 
Living in integrity means living by your own internal values. These can be different from your current religion, community, work or even family and friends. It's essential to be aware of your own inner guidance system. Check-in on these often; as we go through different growth stages and cycles, your core values can shift. Take some time to think through what you value in yourself and others.

Write down a list of 10 things you appreciate about others (role models, family, friends, boss, leaders etc.) These should be people you look up to and would want to embody these values. Next, write down ten things you value about yourself. Now take a look at both lists. Are there any that overlap? Condense your list, and feel free to add any other values that come to mind. 

Example: 
I value speaking my Truth 
I value respecting and listening to others
I value expansion 
I value connection to the Divine 

Keep a list of your values in a spot you can see every day to become engrained and top of mind. Once you are clear about your values, it makes decision making easier. Is this decision aligned with my values?

Meaning 
Place your hand on your heart and breath into your chest; feel your heartbeat on your hand. Listen to the harmony you produce within.
Feel into things you are grateful for. 

• What do you appreciate about your life? 
• What gives your life meaning? 
• What pulls at your heartstrings? 
• What stirs inside you? 

Passion 
In a relaxed position, think of something, someone, someplace that you really really care about. Maybe this is human rights, animals, sustainability, honoring our elders, solving problems for others, organizing, leading. Spend some time appreciating what you care about. 

Now, write down a list of everything you thought of. 

Joy
Close your eyes and take three deep breaths. Imagine you are getting ready to embark on your perfect day! Nothing is stopping you, not time, money, travel, work or other people. 

• How would you start your day? 
• Where would you be? 
• Who would you be with? 
• What excites you about this day? 
• What do you feel when doing the things that excite you? 

After you have visualized your perfect day for a few minutes, write down anything that came up. 

Now that you have worked through the exercises, use the blank graph below to write down a few of your key takeaways. 

Connection questions: 
1) Do you see any correlations or common threads from all the categories? 
2) Do you feel like you have a better idea of who you are underneath your trigger? 
3) What are a few things you can do next time you get triggered? How can you remind yourself who you REALLY are? 

Are you looking for guidance and support to work through your triggers? I offer 1:1 coaching and courses. 

Comment below with what resonated or if you have any follow up questions. 

Much Love Always, 
xoxo
Shannon McAlister 

I've rounded 5 tips for Projectors for all those interested in learning more about Human Design. New to Human Design? Get a free reading on My Body Graph or Google "free Human Design graph ."There are 5 Aura types in Human Design; manifestors, reflectors, projectors, manifesting generators, and generators. 


Projectors 
As non-sacral beings, Projectors have inconsistent access to sacral energy. You are here to manage, guide, and direct the energy of all the other types. You have a fantastic awareness and perspective that allows you to be sensitive and read others. The key for Projectors is to recognize and acknowledge your own unique gifts first and then wait for the right people to see your brilliance and invite you to share your wisdom. You have a focused and absorbing aura, thanks to the G Center. The ability to access others' energy when acting according to your strategy. When you are invited to share your guidance, you have an uncanny way to help increase productivity, sustainability, and coherence. Ultimately you are here to be a guide for the collective. 


Strategy 
Wait for the invitation and recognition to guide others. If you offer unsolicited advice or penetrate others' auras without the invitation, you will experience bitterness. Your aura is absorbing and able to see into others' G Center and the direction of the other. Sometimes people aren't ready or want to be seen in this way. 


Authority 

Emotional (Solar Plexus Center)
You have a consistent way of processing your emotions and are here to learn to ride the emotional wave. When you are in an emotional high or low, is not when to make decisions. Doing so will lead to emotional and impulsive actions in your life. Instead, create space in your schedule and routines to feel your entire emotional cycle. Once you get to a place of neutral, then make the decision. 


Splenic (Spleen Center) 
Your Inner decision-making comes from your Spleen Center, where you have instant access. It will say it once and in a subtle ping. Think of a whisper like "do this" or "do that"; it might not make logical sense, but you have an inner understanding and knowledge of what to do. Follow those intuitive pings or nudges. Respond to your inner urges and watch where it leads you. You can up-level your life very quickly when you follow your intuitive guidance and trust your instincts. 


Ego-Projected (Heart Center) 
Your reliable decision-making process comes from the heart center. So follow the urges of your heart, especially after you get that invitation. It's not selfish to follow what you want. Think I statement like "I want" or "I desire ."You make decisions, create and speak things from your heart. You'll work through your recognition and invitations and listen to your heart. Where is it calling you to go? Don't apologize for what you want or where you are going. 


Self-Projected (Identity Center) 
Your decision-making comes from your connection to the identity center and the throat. Sense of self, direction, and love; you can literally speak from who you are. Listen to the sound of your voice, and express your decision out loud. How is the tone? Surrender to your Authority, and what does it feel like in your body? A No might raise your voice or cause a contraction in your throat. A YES might be an excited tone and expansive feeling in your throat. 


Mental (Anja Center) 
You have consistent access to your mind. Take time to weigh your decisions. Think of a sounding board; use others to bounce your ideas off of. Not to get their input but to mule over your choices and hear them out loud. You are constantly processing and conceptualizing. Notice how you feel in different environments and what feels right to you. You have a lot of open centers and can be sensitive to the defined centers around you. ​

5 Tips For Projectors 

1) Create balance in your life 
As a non-sacral being, you do not have sustainable energy and are vulnerable to burnout. Make sure you create routines and schedules that feel good to you. You can take in and amplify the sacral energy around, which can be unsustainable if you continue to try to keep up with the hustle and grind mentality. You are not meant to work a typical 9-5 or be in school all day long. Try to find work that's flexible or where you can create your schedule. 

2) Build in rest 
You need rest and space from the Generator field (Sacral Energy). Go to bed before you are tired and sleep until you are well rested. Although you are NOT lazy, you have most likely been conditioned to think you are like a Generator and meant to do, do, do. But that's not the case for you. Projectors need space and time to be in their own energy. Learn to recognize what your system and body needs. Then, you can thrive when you set up the right environment for yourself. 

3) Learn to trust yourself + divine 
Being in the right location to get the right invitations is very important for you. Make sure you are living in a city and environment that you enjoy. You need to be seen and recognized; if you aren't, your magnetism won't be activated. If you don't love your area, you won't thrive to the level you could. In this case, you will suffer, and other people won't experience your gifts and guidance. 

4) Share your guidance when invited 
Learn to wait to share your guidance once you have been seen, recognized, or invited. You must be relaxed and become an open channel. Live your life and enjoy what you are doing. You become magnetic to the right people, places, and things. Focus, care, and nurture yourself; as a result, you will be called into service. 

5) Work through your wounds of not feeling seen and heard. 
In the past, you may have experienced times when you gave fantastic advice, but the other person didn't listen. Then a few weeks later, you check in with them, and they tell you about a great tip they received from a co-worker, AND it was the same advice you gave them just a few weeks earlier! This can make you feel like you aren't seen or heard, but your guidance is only received when you are invited to share. Embrace your own unique nature and value being enough. Over time you will gain a certain sense of inner peace and safety that will enable you to access your gifts of guidance. 

If you are Interested In learning more about your Human Design chart, I offer chart reading sessions. When you learn to work with your specific energy type your whole life changes! 

Much Love Always, 

xoxo 
Shannon McAlister 

5 Tips for Reflectors 

Tip #1 Find the right environment 
Due to their fluid and open nature, Reflectors must live and work in an environment that is harmonious. Our world is constantly changing; therefore, Reflectors must rely on their environment for stability and identity. Having stable partners and relationships can help Reflectors live a more stable and grounding life. The challenge here is that the Reflector can lose themselves in relationships if the scales tip. 

Daily rituals that help keep you grounded, balanced and harmonious will help Reflectors have inner and outer balance. Choose your friends, partners and communities wisely, as this has a drastic impact on your energy type and inner workings. Your people should make you feel good. If they don't, it's time to speak your truth, cut ties or find a new community that supports you. 

Tip #2 Learn when enough is enough 
If Generators surround you daily, you reflect and amplify their energy. With your open centers, it can be hard for you to know when enough is enough. You can sometimes appear to have vast amounts of energy and may have been conditioned to believe you are Generator. You may try to keep up with friends, partners and co-workers, but you are designed for more rest and solo time. 

Tip #3 Schedule rest and solo time 
You do not have sustainable energy; Reflectors must be mindful of getting enough rest and keep self-care at the top of your priority list. It would be best if you had time away from all types of energy to clear the energies you have encountered throughout the day. 

Being out in nature can be a healing salve for Reflectors. Living in rural or open nature areas can be a tranquil lifestyle for a Reflector. Taking daily solo walks amongst the trees or coastline can help clear out any outside energy you have collected. 

Tip #4 Work with the lunar cycle 
Reflectors must take time to sort out what is theirs and what is someone else's thoughts, feelings, and beliefs with all the open centers. It's said that Reflectors must wait 28 days to make decisions. However, many Reflectors have found this not to be the case for them. Tune in to what feels best for you and make time to contemplate what is true for you. 

Following the lunar cycle can be beneficial to understand any cosmic and external energies that may impact you throughout the year. If this resonates with you, there are many apps and sites that you can learn more about mama moon and how her energy affects us. 


Tip #5 Grounding practices 
Anything that helps you ground down into the present moment will create more stability in your life. Naturally, you are fluid and a mirror to others. To feel more secure in yourself, use grounding practices to give you more ease and calm as you go about your day. 

Some grounding practices are; cooking, gardening, walking barefoot on the ground, anything that makes you feel connected to mother earth. 

If you are Interested In learning more about your Human Design chart, I offer chart reading sessions. When you learn to work with your specific energy type your whole life changes! 

Much Love Always, 

xoxo 
Shannon McAlister 

For all those interested in Human Design, I've rounded 5 tips for Manifestors. New to Human Design? Get a free reading on My Body Graph or Google "free Human Design graph". There are 5 Aura types in Human Design; manifestors, reflectors, projectors, manifesting generators and generators. Today we will be talking about Manifestors. 


Manifestors 
If your chart has an open (white) Sacral Center and one of the other three motors going to the throat center you are a Manifestor. Only 8 percent of the population are Manifestors. With an open Sacral Center, Manifestors do not have sustainable energy or that inner GPS. Instead, the open Sacral Center takes in and amplifies all the Generator energy around them. Manifestors can do more than Generators and Manifesting Generators but only for a while. If they try to sustain this energy, it leads to burn out. Manifestors need rest and alone time to cool down from being exposed to the rev up from Generators motors. They are vulnerable to not knowing when enough is enough and can overdo it. 


Manifestors are here to impact people, situations, and projects. They are here to get things moving. They are designed to initiate a process, then step out and let the Generators do the legwork to build. Since Manifestors don't have a defined Sacral Center they don't have to wait to respond. Yet since they don't have that clear inner guidance system, Manifestors often need to take an experimental approach to see what will work. As a powerful force, Manifestors have a closed repelling aura. They have typically been leaders in our culture. Having a motor to the throat means they don't depend on others to take action and can be loners paving their own way. 


Having a non-verbal process requires time to cultivate, and they need to be allowed to be in their creative process flow. Interruptions and help from others can break their flow; it's important that Manifestors have enough time and space with their thoughts.


The strategy for Manifestors is to inform. At times the power and impact of Manifestors can be intimidating and challenging to others. They are designed to do what they want when they want. In today's society, this can be unwelcomed behavior "stay in line" can be mumbled from the sidelines. That's why when Manifestors inform people; they stand a far greater chance of diminishing resistance they might encounter. 



If interrupted or when things don't go their way, Manifestors can get angry. This can be tough on both the Manifestor and the people around them. Manifestors need to find proper outlets for their anger to avoid shutting down their creative flow. ​

Tip 1 - Learn to balance time alone and time with others 
While we admire individuality, we also value connection, and it can be not very clear to Manifestors where they fit on that scale. They are fiercely independent and aren't always team players. Especially if other people on the team have opposing opinions or when authority tries to tell them what to do. 

It's essential to create space and time alone to work on your projects and ideas. When working in team settings, be aware that your anger might flare if someone argues your viewpoints and tries to tell you to do something that you disagree with it. Just by being aware of this, you can calm the internal dialogue and body sensations that arise.

Tip 2 - Create healthy outlets for anger 
Anger can arise for Manifestors when things don't go their way. It can get ugly, as many of them unleash these emotional sensations internally on themselves or others. 

The key is to have healthy outlets for your anger. Try a high-intensity workout, hit a pillow and scream. Clear this energy, and then do an activity that excites you. Time alone or out in nature to connect back to your vision and something bigger than you can help soothe your pent up negative energy. Find self-soothing techniques that work for you. With your power and anger, you can create an unstable environment and repel others. Learn to manage how you handle your anger both internally and externally. 

Tip 3 - Know when enough is enough 
You take on the energy of the Generators around you, which leads to not knowing when enough is enough. You can risk burnout out or be perceived as "too much". You may overindulge in unhealthy self-soothing behaviors, not knowing when to stop engaging in these negative patterns.

Create a schedule that allows solo time. Cultivate spiritual practices that allow you to clear the energy of others and get back to your natural energy cadence. Write a list of healthy self-soothing techniques such as meditation, taking a bath, going for a walk, whatever feels best for you.  

Tip 4 - Cultivate mindfulness or inner guidance practices
Without the inner guidance system of the Sacral Center you are meant to experiment with your ideas and see what sticks. This can be incredibly challenging as you might feel pressure to know what is next. Release that pressure by cultivating mindfulness or spiritual practice that allows you to relax into the present moment. Everything is unfolding exactly as it should. Trust in the divine plan. Be curious and open to the present moment. Learn to surrender to the now, and you will uncover a new way of being with less worry and pressure to perform. You are powerful and impactful; trust in that knowing. 

Tip 5 - Schedule in rest, relaxation and isolation time 
You are not designed for our cultural norm of school and work from nine to five. You simply do not have sustainable energy. You do best by initiating a project and then leaving the work aspect to the Generators. Create space in your schedule for downtime and rest away from all the Sacral motor energy. You'll need to learn to pay attention and manage your energy levels. Naps and solo time are daily musts! 

Are you looking for more support? I offer 1:1 coaching sessions to dive into your Human Design type together and help you discover the life journey that will lead you to excitement and satisfaction. I also have a self-discovery course called Let Your Light Shine. 


Any questions, pop them below or feel free to reach out through the contact form. 


Much Love Always, 
The Rebel Soul 
Shannon McAlister 

1) Learn to inform others 
In addition to waiting to respond, Manifesting Generators must also inform others. With the connection to their throat center, they will be impacting people, and when they learn to let people in on the projects they are working on, they will have a far easier time completing their goals. They incline to move forward once they have the sacral response to something. They tend to get completely absorbed and forget the outside world. Project isolation can get them into trouble in their relationships with others. The key is to remember to include the people around them in what they are doing, and things will unfold much more smoothly. Remember that not everyone is as adept as you and will need to be told what's going on. 


2) Learn to ask for help 
Manifesting Generators are so talented and efficient; they tend to want to do everything by themself. Doing everything on their own can lead to burnout and take a toll on their energy supply. There will be times when it's right to ask for help, which can be challenging for them to recognize and accept. A few tools that can help are body scan meditations, regular check-ins with an accountability partner/spouse and say what's working and not working. Through these types of exercises, you might realize you have aches/pains, repressed emotions and some key warning signs telling you to slow down and ask for support. 


3) Learn how to be in a relationship with others 
Because they don't need people in the same way that most do, they can be challenging to be in a relationship with, especially if their partner wants more time and connection. If their partner can support them with space and time to work on their projects solo, then the relationship can work well. Clear communication and informing others will help mitigate misunderstandings in their relationships. But the Manifesting Generator needs to be aware of their absorption and navigate the needs of their partner in a healthy and balanced manner. 


4) Know your intention and why 
If a Manifesting Generator is not harnessing their Sacral Center inner GPS, their tremendous energy can be unfocused. They tend to be very busy doing multiple things, and having scattered energy not backed by intention or a heartfelt why can lead to burnout. It's key to recognize their limits and not push themselves to overdo things they aren't passionate about. Remember, Generators are to do work that they love! Not just use their energy to check things off their to-do list. 


Regular spiritual practices, whether that's going out in nature, praying, meditating, singing or dancing, can help Manifesting Generators connect to something larger than them. In return, their intentions and life purpose will become more apparent. 


5) Have healthy outlets for frustration and anger 


Like a Pure Generator, the Manifesting Generator can become easily frustrated when resistance and blocks occur. They must sort out where their Sacral Center is guiding them. Sometimes their best strategy is to shift directions, while other times, they need to stay and obtain mastery. Also, anger can arise for Manifesting Generators when things don't go their way. It can get ugly, as many of them unleash these emotional sensations internally on themselves or others. 


The key is to have healthy outlets for your frustration and anger. Try a high-intensity workout, hit a pillow and scream. Clear this energy, and then do an activity that excites you. Get that Sacral energy flowing again and tune into your internal GPS. Where is it guiding you? 

Ready to tap Into your own power? I've created a Throat + Sacral Activation Meditation for Manifesting Generators. 


Are you looking for more support? I offer 1:1 coaching sessions to dive into your Human Design type together and help you discover the life journey that will lead you to excitement and satisfaction. I also have a self-discovery course called Let Your Light Shine. 


Any questions, pop them below or feel free to reach out through the contact form. 


Much Love Always, 
Shannon McAlister 

For all those interested in Human Design I've rounded 5 tips for tuning into your sacral response as a generator. New to Human Design? Get a free reading on My Body Graph or Google "free Human Design graph". There are 5 Aura types in Human Design; manifest0rs, reflectors, projectors, manifesting generators and generators. 

About 70% of the world's population are generators. As a generator you carry life's most powerful motor within you, the Sacral Center (think womb space or pelvic area). Literally the source of life energy flows through you! You are here to use your energy to work and to LOVE the work you do. When you're living in alignment to your sacral response, you experience satisfaction and enjoy using your full reserve of energy each day, waking up revitalized ready to take on each day! 

Although you possess a vast pool of energy inside, you do not have consistent access to this energy that your mind thinks you do. The only approach for your energy to emerge is to follow your strategy of waiting to respond. This doesn't mean you wait around doing nothing! Rather you can experiment and follow the cues of your body. When you light up at an invitation to go somewhere, or get asked to join a project, you must listen to how your body responds. Do you light up and expand with excitement with "ah-hunh"! or do you pause with a hmmm? Or maybe you retract with un-un? Tuning into your body can help you decipher what you are excited to pour your energy into. When you take action on something you are excited about you get in the flow and have mass amounts of energy to see the plan through. 

The beauty of being a generator is listening to your body's wisdom. You must slow down and be aware of how you are responding to the world around you with verbal, physical and facial responses. You also become a magnet for opportunities the more you are following what excites you! Your energy magnifies and pulls the right people, places and things to YOU! The thing is many of us have been condition to not trust our gut or our body. 

Waiting to respond and surrendering to the unknown can be so hard for many of us! Especially those of us Americans living the hustle and grind mentality. "If I'm not doing then I'll fail!" we tend to hear. But you are meant to experiment, follow your passions, play and use your energy to create a satisfying life. 

One way to know if you are on the wrong track with your life's purpose is if you are constantly in a state of frustration. You may have energy to see projects through but if you are frustrated the whole time you won't produce something authentic to you. Enjoying the process of your creation is your true gift and when you start following your inner guidance you give others around you permission to do the same. Our world would be a far better place if even half of the generators were living life through their sacral response! As a generator your energy radiates out to others! If using your inner authority correctly you magnify the feeling and energy of satisfaction. On the other hand if you are working with the energy of frustration you give off that energy to others. Sound familiar to the frustrating world we currently live in!? 

As a generator myself I've been experimenting with my body response, but first I had to go within and shed all the old harmful stories about my body, trusting my intuition and really give myself some good old TLC! After coming home to myself and shedding the people pleaser mentality I've been able to tune into my gut/intuition/sacral energy. I know when I'm frustrated and not excited to do my work I'm on the wrong path. When I do something that lights me up I typically get a better response from those around me and I feel satisfied; win-win!  

Tip #1 - Keep a record of how your body responds in various situations.
This works well with a partner if they ask you yes or no questions - you can listen for your verbal response ah-huh, hmmm, un-un. For example your partner can ask you if you want pizza for dinner? Do you light up with excitement, maybe a smile, or move your body toward your phone to look at a menu? Or do you crinkle your face in a question - hmmmm you remark; that's a no for now. Do this with easy questions at first and then when you feel like you know your own personal cues you can work up to harder questions like do you want to start a YouTube channel or move to San Diego?

No matter the decision you need to start making them from your sacral response rather than you mind! No pro or con list will let you know if you made the right decision, but your body is wise and will never you steer you to an experience you didn't need to go through. You'll be so surprised at the unique circumstances that unfold when you start living that way. For example, in college I had a nudge to leave my dorm room and go do homework on the lawn. As I was walking by a booth in the middle of campus, a friend stopped me and asked if I wanted to interview to be a Summer Orientation leader. As she explained the role my eyes lit up and my body moved toward the sign up sheet. I got the role and even became a Senior Leader the following year. To this day it's one of my favorite jobs I've ever had. If I never followed that nudge to switch up my homework location I would have never been invited to interview and wouldn't have had the opportunity I loved so much. 

#2 Breathwork and meditation 
Quieting your mind and being still helps you tune Into your body so that you can pick up your internal wisdom. Body scan mediations help you identify body sensations, release tension and be more aware of your body. Breathwork is a great tool to calm down your fight or flight response, as a generator you are probably use to the hustle and grind of modern society. The key is to slow down and self soothe. Feel into the here and now, turn down the chatter of the monkey mind and listen to the wisdom of your body. If you are feeling stuck and frustrated as you read this post, I've created a meditation to activate your sacral chakra. 

#3 Dance + Embodiment Practices 
Dancing, moving your hips, and getting your blood moving in a free form way is a great tool for tapping into the wisdom of your body and waking up your sacral energy center. Turn on your favorite beats and shake your hips. Close your eyes and feel into your body. What sensations do you feel? Are you feeling tension? Relax the body and let her move. Let your body lead and your mind follow. 

One of my coaches has a beautiful embodiment practice that has helped me tap In and turn on the energy of my body. Tori Washington has created a beautiful Wealth Embodiment Flow that takes you through the depths of scarcity to the sensations of abundance and wealth frequency. While doing this flow I've released a lot of energetic tension in my body and even healed my sciatica. 

#4 Body Led Day 
For one whole do listen to your body and go do whatever It Is guiding you to do. This is almost like a Yes Day if you've seen that movie on Netflix. Allow yourself to do whatever lights your body up. No questions or mental checklists. See where she takes you! You might even have some unique encounters or meet awesome people along way. 

#5 Experiment + Trust Yourself
If you are feeling frustrated and stuck it's important to experiment, try new things, new ways and with new people. The more you follow your excitement and feel satisfied the more you will trust yourself. Remember you are building a relationship with your body. Tuning into your own personal cues can take time, commitment, trial and error. Be kind to yourself as this new way of guidance is most likely very unfamiliar or different to the way you have previously made decisions. It's like building a muscle if you don't use it you lose it! Most importantly have fun and get lost in the process. Along the way new doors and possibilities could open to you that you never planned or dreamed of. Your body is wise and is to be trusted. 

Looking for more support? I offer 1:1 coaching where we can dive into your Human Design type together and help you discover your own life journey that will lead you to excitement and satisfaction. I also have a self-discovery course called Let Your Light Shine. 

Any questions pop them below or feel free to reach out through the contact form. 

Much Love Always, 
Shannon McAlister 

How often do you let your inner critic stop you from going after what you truly desire? Or do you allow your inner critic to run rapid and beat you up?


At the start of motherhood, I wasn't aware of how negative I spoke to myself. I was my own biggest critic. It pains me now, to think how long I allowed this berating internal dialogue to play out. 


Now, I call my inner critic Sharon; it's the name people accidentally address me in emails or the barista at Starbucks will call out my drink order. Being called Sharon use to rev me up, but now I laugh because it's not that big of a deal. Giving my inner critic a name helps me to see this negativity as silly and not to take her so damn seriously! 


I've rounded up four ways to calm your inner critic:


1) Acknowledge that your inner critic is in the room.

• When you start catching your negative thoughts, beliefs and inner critic in action, you can stop your self-sabotage in its track. 
• You can stop harmful patterns, and you can respond to your circumstances rather than react.

2) Get curious about your fear and current needs.

• Criticism of yourself stems from a wound or fear. 
• Get curious; what fear or wound is coming up? Is it a real danger or a perceived threat?
• Ask questions rather than spiraling down and with the story of criticism and fear.

3) Love on yourself

• Tune into yourself with grace and compassion. Can you find reasons to prove the fear wrong? 
• Ask yourself what you need to feel safe. 
• Listen to your body and love on yourself with positive affirmations and activities that fill up your cup. 

4) Visualize the best-case scenario

• You might find yourself visualizing all the ways the situation could go wrong, or you could get hurt. 
• You get what you expect. 
• Instead, envision the best case scenario and really FEEL into how you'd experience life if everything went in your favor.

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Our inner critic can be a useful tool to observe wounds or fears. When you bring awareness to the critical internal dialogue, you can choose how you respond to the situation.


If you are a mama who has struggled with negative self-talk and you are looking for a community of mamas, join our Morphing into Motherhood community on Mighty Networks. We also have a course launching the winter that helps you through the three major shifts of motherhood; identity, body, and relationship. The online course Morphing into Motherhood helps YOU through this monumental transformation with more grace, love and compassion for yourself.


Join the  Morphing into Motherhood waitlist! 

xoxo, 
The Rebel Soul Mama

You will only accept your child to the extent that you accept yourself. 

How can we raise humans to be independent and free spirited if we are not? Our children mirror us, they feed off our energy, our responses and how we show up in the world. 

We must first accept that we are an individual being before we are a parent. Accept ALL your strengths and shortcomings. When we do this we teach our children how to do this themselves. 

If we do not accept our children or ourselves for who we truly are then we will allow ourselves to dominate + control them. Or the opposite will happen; we will allow our children to dominate + control us. 

The key is in order to build true connection with our children we need to dive inward and love ourselves fully. When we come from a centered place we can clear our minds and attune to our child in the present moment with curiosity and captivation. 

Use the above affirmations to accept yourself and your child fully. Comment below if you have any to add!

xoxo, 
The Rebel Soul Mama 

What is Conscious Parenting? 

This style of parenting, focuses on the healing + awareness journey of the parent. Our children are our greatest spiritual teachers. They live in the present moment and inspire us to do the same. 

We must connect with ourselves so that we can connect to our children. If we are not connected to who we truly are how can we connect, teach or guide our children to be their true authentic selves? 

Using this method you set aside superiority, our children are not our property or people we get to control. Take yourself off the pedestal of dominance. Many of us were raised in homes where our parents controlled us, we had to be obedient and do whatever they said. Even when we felt in our heart + being that what they were saying was not true for us or how we wanted to live our life. Along the way we got out of touch with our true essence to please and obey our parents. With conscious parenting we remove the control and opt for connection, giving room for our children to stay connected to themselves and follow their own life path. 

In this practice you learn to observe and be aware of your ego, emotions, reactions and expectations. We must realize that our ego isn't us. It's a built up personality from all our perceived experiences and emotions. Many times we react to protect our ego. With conscious parenting we learn to pause, reflect and then respond to our children. 

We are all always evolving and growing. I believe that parents and children will forever be teaching each other. 

Have any questions? Comment below. 

xoxo, 
The Rebel Soul Mama